Self assured affirmations, and gratitude lists, deep meditations that seek to find bliss; these long practiced techniques are spiritual bypasses, and like drugs keep you seeking relief that’s the fastest. It creates deeper chasms between darkness and light. Keeps relieving our pain while losing insight. The road that I’m on to find inner peace is to go deep within, find my losses and grieve. All hurts, held unconscious, stem from a loss. Of love, safety, autonomy, these and more are the cause. The unconscious holds wounds that cry out to reveal, by repeating our hurts, that want to be healed.

Any practiced techniques that we learn to do, might ease our pain but it won’t heal the wound. Techniques must be done for the rest of your life. As the wound slowly festers and grows in denial. You have to heal wounds by grieving through truth. That you’re angry and hurt and feel shameful too. Bring the unconscious conscious and express in some way, punching bags, release anger crying out, hurt and shame, until we accept and forgive the betrayal by friends, family, and lovers, relationship failures.

That doesn’t mean you must leave or must stay. It means you can finally let go, a new way. You’ll start being authentic and have boundaries to say, if you want to travel with me there’s a way. By healing yourself just like I’m doing. If you’re willing, we’ll begin, together pursuing. Healing chasms within, then together, we’ll try this. Travel parallel roads, without spiritual bypasses.